Your Sex Drive Moves in Phases Too - It’s Not Random—It’s Rhythmic.
Living in Rhythm: How Your Body Works in Every Phase
Your body isn’t random—it’s rhythmic.
Each phase of your moon cycle brings real shifts in hormones, mood, energy, and cravings.This series breaks it down simply—so you can understand what’s happening and support your body with food, lifestyle, and flow.
Because when you know your rhythm, you thrive with it.
Let’s Get One Thing Straight
If you’ve ever felt like your sex drive is all over the place, you’re not alone—and there is nothing wrong with you.
One week, you’re craving deep connection. Feeling magnetic. Channeling your inner Samantha Jones.
The next? You’d rather be left the hell alone. You feel asexual, irritated, and like, “Can everyone just not?”
And no one ever told you why.
Here’s the truth:
Your sex drive is hormonal. Emotional. Energetic.
It moves through phases—just like the rest of you.
So instead of asking, “What’s going on with me?”
Start asking, “What phase am I in?”
The Four Phases of Desire
🌱 Follicular Phase (Day 6–14)
The Spark Returns
Hormonal Snapshot:
Estrogen is rising, energy builds, and so does your libido.
Testosterone makes a subtle entrance—and suddenly, confidence kicks in.
Libido Vibe:
You’re blooming—and it shows. Playful. Flirty. Curious. Emotionally open.
This is your flirt-with-life phase.
What helps:
Trying something new—lingerie, a bold text, a flirty playlist
Movement and creativity (because they’re deeply connected to arousal)
Self-pleasure that feels fresh and exploratory—like turning the lights back on
🌕 Ovulation Phase (Around Day 14)
Peak Desire
Hormonal Snapshot:
Estrogen and testosterone both spike.
LH triggers ovulation. Your glow-up is real—and your body knows it.
Libido Vibe:
This is your magnetism peak. You’re bold, expressive, and deeply in tune with your sensuality.
Flirt. Lead. Play. If you’re feeling it—this is the time to make the first move.
What helps:
Leaning into your sensuality: dancing, touch, connection
Owning your desire unapologetically
Exploring self-pleasure with presence—it’s a celebration, not a checklist
🍂 Luteal Phase (Days 15–28):
Tenderness & Sensitivity
Hormonal Snapshot:
Progesterone rises. Estrogen dips.
Sensitivity increases—and if hormones or blood sugar are off, PMS may roar.
Libido Vibe:
Think: smolder, not spark.
You may feel more sensitive, introverted, and craving slower connection.
This phase invites deeper intimacy, emotional touch, and softer flirtation—if any at all.
What helps:
Baths, massage, and touch with intention
Journaling or emotional check-ins (with yourself or a partner)
Using self-pleasure as a calming, grounding ritual
Pleasure in this phase is less about fire—and more about warmth.
🌑 Menstrual Phase (Days 1–5)
Releasing + Reconnecting
Hormonal Snapshot:
All hormones are at their lowest.
You’re in sacred release mode.
Libido Vibe:
No pressure. No performance. Just you.
For some, libido is at zero.
For others, it quietly flickers back around Day 2 or 3.
Orgasms can even relieve cramps—yes, really.
What helps:
Permission to rest, unplug, and say no
Exploring pleasure on your own terms, without expectations
Letting go of "shoulds"—and honoring exactly what your body wants
Pleasure Isn’t Linear—It’s Lunar
Your sex drive is not supposed to be consistent.
It’s not supposed to perform.
It’s supposed to reflect your cycle.
When you track it, honor it, and meet yourself in each phase—you reclaim it.
Desire isn’t something you owe.
It’s something you nurture.
Sometimes with someone else.
And sometimes, with your own.
Start syncing with your cycle today:
Track where you are in your cycle right now
Adjust your meals, movement, and mindset with each phase
Follow @mymoonaffair for more education and daily tips
Your rhythm is wisdom. Own it. Explore it. Thrive with it.